How do you accept the possibility of separating from your wife?

Honey it will take time. You are not alone. There are many men who go through this. At this point is sounds as if you ARE doing anything and everything you can possibly do, but at the same time it is her final decision. I think you should keep doing what you are doing and don't beat yourself over it. Only time heals and your time will come... Meanwhile focus on yourself and do things you enjoy with or with out her. Good Luck!!!!!